tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.comments2024-02-14T22:44:31.941-08:00The Gonzo MamaChristina-Marie Wrighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16669501917338549778noreply@blogger.comBlogger656125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-91933847810214157392021-09-12T03:21:15.399-07:002021-09-12T03:21:15.399-07:00Miki, the funniest guy in class in St. GallenMiki, the funniest guy in class in St. GallenChristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17215234818279715488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-20523352196217849352021-09-12T03:21:12.347-07:002021-09-12T03:21:12.347-07:00Miki, the funniest guy in class in St. GallenMiki, the funniest guy in class in St. GallenChristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17215234818279715488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-67033588037706305222021-08-16T12:52:01.239-07:002021-08-16T12:52:01.239-07:00A few years ago, I was privileged to be visiting N...A few years ago, I was privileged to be visiting New York on a Cruise ship from Scotland. It coincided with an anniversary of 9/11 and we went along to the site to pay our respects. We spotted the name of Deborah and added a flower to her little pot (there is a small flower pot next to each name on the memorial). We have adopted her ever since and think of her every anniversary, here in Scotland. She was a port worker, single and a New Yorker - she was only visiting the WTC that day to some banking and was engulfed when a fire bell went down the lift shaft and burst into the reception hall. She struggled for life, but passed 50 days later, one of the last to die. We will remember her!Tankerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07966685747982229946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-82379266373833552762020-11-09T06:43:18.912-08:002020-11-09T06:43:18.912-08:00Loved coming across your post... Completely identi...Loved coming across your post... Completely identified with your logic behind not giving a damn about the bloody cows!<br /><br />I'm also going through the process of adult diagnosis... Most likely with Innattentive-ADHD as well..<br /><br />So I get the full dose of executive function impairment as well as the sensory sensitivity and oddballness... But never been a big one on stimming or routine, since Im naturally figetty don't even have a normal sense of routine to begin with! Bahah!<br /><br />Honoured to float by and stand and awkwardly try to figure out how to say hello across the crowded room of cyberspace! <br /><br />Cheers,<br /><br />Aaron Scott :DAaron Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07938046277297550665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-68257705253886291002020-06-27T14:35:23.726-07:002020-06-27T14:35:23.726-07:00This blog entry was all too familiar to me, and to...This blog entry was all too familiar to me, and to my girlfriend, who also read it and related. I grew up in the eighties and nineties; I was in my teens before Asperger's Syndrome was even a real diagnosis. I remember an activity in school where everyone had to make a "nice" comment to each other person in the class. Everyone always said I was "unique." It was the only polite comment they could think of, kind of a backhanded compliment. After years of mental health treatment, a psychiatrist I was seeing said I may be on the autism spectrum. It clarified my past a lot. My girlfriend of 13 years has similar quirks, and we believe she is probably autistic as well. My childhood may have been a train wreck, but at least now I have found love with someone who understands me. We are always researching and discussing our mutual obsessions, without feeling judged, like usual. It was a hard journey, but worth it.<br />~Ricki Speranza Tikvahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00413202604132780967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-41648247867326301712019-11-25T09:57:09.007-08:002019-11-25T09:57:09.007-08:00Thank you for this. I am not diagnosed with autism...Thank you for this. I am not diagnosed with autism - in fact, I was assessed as a child and determined to not be autistic because my verbal skills were incredibly advanced for my age, rather than the reverse. So I was labelled "poorly adjusted" instead. But what you describe, that was my world through and through. Thank you again.Daria Leanne Dykeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15113782217311206155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-45115457388559556422019-09-19T13:25:02.405-07:002019-09-19T13:25:02.405-07:00I love your post - but the part about not being ou...I love your post - but the part about not being our child’s voice - I beg to differ. My aspie daughter has her own voice, and is now really starting to use it as she becom s a young adult which I so love. My son however has asd and learning disabilities and other health issues - he has very limited language. I have to be his voice. Although i try daily to devise ways in which to support him to make the simple choices he is able to, I will always have to be his voice and advocate as best I can for him. I’m under no illusions - I’m well aware I won’t slays get it right for him, but I will always try whilst there is breath in my body. Which is why I write this reply now - to speak for him and others with similar needs. To remind people that even with limited or no speech, they very much matter too 😊But You Look Ok...https://www.blogger.com/profile/12310305637982369388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-79170611858388609802019-09-11T08:27:32.323-07:002019-09-11T08:27:32.323-07:00ShawnaD, I believe every child has "amazingne...ShawnaD, I believe every child has "amazingness" within them, just as every adult does. I'm sure your children are no different.<br /><br />Again, I presume competence in my children, so I talk to them about neurodiversity, self-advocacy, and advocacy for others, all the time.<br /><br />When I'm around other children, like my kids' friends, I talk about inclusion and neurodiversity, too, in small ways, when it's natural. It should be completely normal for children to see and share space with disabled folks.<br /><br />The routine messaging is important, because when we make it a commonplace thing to stand up for oneself and others in discussion, it translates well into the rest of life.<br /><br />I don't know the ages of your children, but I might suggest conversations that focus on things like, "You are wicked good at __________, but because we are all different, and sometimes need help, you sometimes need help with ___________. It's okay to ask for that help. Mom sometimes needs help with __________. It's also okay to ask for help for others, when you see them struggling."<br /><br />Best of luck to you, and your kiddos! <3Christina-Marie Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16669501917338549778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-8652053765448288352019-09-10T14:17:20.633-07:002019-09-10T14:17:20.633-07:00This made me cry, with sadness, and hope. I hope m...This made me cry, with sadness, and hope. I hope my children can be this amazing one day.<br />ShawnaDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00038976091131440647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-75908887153772351322018-09-11T05:32:52.807-07:002018-09-11T05:32:52.807-07:00Every year I look around for anything about Rahma ...Every year I look around for anything about Rahma on the day of her death. I knew Rahma from Japan - she was a year behind me at ISSH. She was a bright light, so kind, so smart, so fearless. Thanks for taking the time to remember her as well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01417721078197622584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-44838368276949604402018-09-01T12:49:10.051-07:002018-09-01T12:49:10.051-07:00Isn'y Behavior Babe the same one who made a Ca...Isn'y Behavior Babe the same one who made a Cards Against Humanity deck about ABA tactics and autistic students? Yeah. Thought so. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15199272230403576125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-70567559982467571272018-08-31T16:03:19.389-07:002018-08-31T16:03:19.389-07:00Seeing Clearly,
It seems that you wanted everyone...Seeing Clearly, <br />It seems that you wanted everyone in the autism community to follow YOUR beliefs about autism and that you are not being tolerant of those beliefs that disagrees with yours. Remember these pointers:<br /><br />There are people in the autism community that uses identity first language.<br />There are people in the autism community that do NOT want a cure for autism.<br /><br />Just because YOU want to use people first language and wanting to get rid of autism, it does not mean that everyone in the autism community does and YOU need to respect that.tlcoopi7https://www.blogger.com/profile/15764486205755413612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-50743851072321961512018-01-16T23:35:53.195-08:002018-01-16T23:35:53.195-08:00Wow... Why is it that all of these articles which...Wow... Why is it that all of these articles which challenge ABA, on whatever site, somehow get the same lot of allisticsplaining ABA practictioners coming to tell the writers how wrong you are? How do they actually find you?<br /><br />I appreciated this vignette. Perhaps Mr. Psychologist will think a bit more clearly about his pedagogical imperatives, of the socially mandated but toxic position he has as censor to your kids.曙霏https://www.blogger.com/profile/13938325915433704661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-78049306908835779322017-09-13T08:46:24.153-07:002017-09-13T08:46:24.153-07:00You know, it's really hard to 'come to an ...You know, it's really hard to 'come to an agreement' with someone who thinks I'm broken. <br /><br />My position is that I am an autistic person and I deserve to exist as I am. <br /><br />Your position is that I don't. <br /><br />That's not something I can compromise on.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11540973421218727837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-29930019525637317912017-09-05T14:14:05.410-07:002017-09-05T14:14:05.410-07:00I liked the idea of "throwing a fit because t...I liked the idea of "throwing a fit because the car is the wrong colour".<br /><br />And then when I am in the parking lot trying to find all the grey cars which look like the Mothership and have bonnets and profiles.<br /><br />Multiple characteristics, people!<br /><br />And in Australia there are three generations of Stolen Children. This really pushes my buttons and gets my goat.<br /><br />Archie Roach - "Took the children away".Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-77823633565383529242017-09-05T14:10:47.532-07:002017-09-05T14:10:47.532-07:00One more firetrucking time!
"First and final...One more firetrucking time!<br /><br />"First and final" for you lot [behaviour people].<br /><br />And that would be "one trial learning" also if they did that.Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-10388413544702914192017-09-01T12:06:33.572-07:002017-09-01T12:06:33.572-07:00I don't buy into the neurotypical- Neurodivers...I don't buy into the neurotypical- Neurodiversity paradigm. It's like calling green, brown and blue color typical because they are common colors and red and yellow colordiverse. Build bridges not walls where they don't need to be labels build walls we are all individuals like the colors of the rainbow we all should be healthy and full of our selves not sick and ill. Autism is like a car with wheels that doesn't work not different types or kinds of wheels.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-58131038477427544642017-09-01T11:46:16.521-07:002017-09-01T11:46:16.521-07:00The BACB was founded in 1998. Prior to that there ...The BACB was founded in 1998. Prior to that there were no professional BCBA requirements. So, yes, it is a very young field. Even if one wanted to start the timeline at 1960, in scientific terms, it's still very young. Compare it to physics or even chemistry. More about those in a moment.<br />You cite ABA as coming from Behaviorism as a slight. Physics started out as nature studies. Chemistry goes back to alchemy. Science, including ABA, constantly progresses through searching for improvement in all aspects. <br />I'm not the biggest fan of people first language because it's counterintuitive to how English works. However, I fully understand why some people prefer it. It has become my default out of consideration for others. I will point out that a previous comment by someone alleged to be respectful of preferred language but was absolutely disrespectful. Someone wrote "people with autism because some autistics prefer that." This person states that some people prefer one label but uses the non-preferred label as the actual label. It's illustrates disrespect because the non-preferred language is still used. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06845592197938804174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-48501819808217261152017-09-01T10:34:53.744-07:002017-09-01T10:34:53.744-07:00I know what land I am in which is land that disagr...I know what land I am in which is land that disagrees with me and I have no problem talking to people who disagree.<br /><br />Hello oedalis, many, but not all hold these opinions that autism is a good or neutral thing. Some have even admitted autism is a bad thing and are proud of it being such to have autism. Lots of red flags in the disability pride movement.<br /><br />Do you drive? Has your car ever broken down and if so, did you try to fix it or accept it for what the car is now? How about when you buy a new product at the store and it doesn't work do you accommodate the products lack of function or do you try to fix the product or return it? Isn't that prodicablism? Or objectablism? If autistic people have some kind of brain problem who are we to say it doesn't need to be fixed what logic is that? Legs that don't work should not be embraced as unique they should be fixed or else it defeats the purpose of having legs in the first place.<br /><br />The DSM is controversial and autism is a controversial diagnosis because it has no scientific biomarker background or identity or much logical reasoning to justify nearly any DSM label. We are living in an age of industrial toxicity, so the rise of what we perceive as autism or other weaknesses medical or psychological might actually be rising. I am open to listening to counterclaims, I believe in free speech within reason so if anyone disagrees I would like to hear from you and maybe address your concerns or needs.<br /><br />Hope we come to an agreement after listening to each-others concerns with each-others opinions or perception or interpretation. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-25685435719086464052017-09-01T10:13:41.452-07:002017-09-01T10:13:41.452-07:00I think you missed where the original poster said ...I think you missed where the original poster said autistic people don't need to be fixed. "Cured" is just a synonym four "fixed".oedalishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12042274705172433104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-72425844740004913582017-08-31T11:57:04.611-07:002017-08-31T11:57:04.611-07:00Thank you for sharing your link. I WILL read it. I...Thank you for sharing your link. I WILL read it. I deny no one a voice or an opinion.<br /><br />However, I do deny people the opportunity to diminish or take away what others have claimed in their self-advocacy. <br /><br />For many, autism IS an identity. <br /><br />For those who yearn to separate themselves from their autism, my heart mourns for them, but I do not deny them their voice or their view. <br /><br />I haven't read your blog, yet, so I'll end it here, with a message that I do hope every autistic (or person with autism, for those autistics who prefer to be referred to in PFL) finds self-love, acceptance, and empowerment. Christina-Marie Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16669501917338549778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-70062565375424285022017-08-31T11:51:59.188-07:002017-08-31T11:51:59.188-07:00Here's the thing: YOU get to choose what is ri...Here's the thing: YOU get to choose what is right/comfortable/safe for YOU.<br /><br />YOU can self-advocate in the way that serves you best. <br /><br />But everyone else gets to do the same. <br /><br />You'll see in my response to Loren that I said some autistics prefer PFL, and it's always best to ask the individual, if one isn't sure. <br /><br />My name is Christina-Marie. People ask me what I want to be called, and I say, "Christina-Marie."<br /><br />If they call me "Christina," "Chris," "Christy," "Christine," or anything else, it points to a lack of respect. <br /><br />Same goes for IFL. Christina-Marie Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16669501917338549778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-24973718081899541122017-08-31T10:47:09.216-07:002017-08-31T10:47:09.216-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Amber Carrollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15129025784568421739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-66661153894392399242017-08-31T10:46:41.890-07:002017-08-31T10:46:41.890-07:00Describe me by my abilities and identities not my ...Describe me by my abilities and identities not my disabilities and diagnosis, there is a difference.<br /><br />The girl in beautiful blond hair VS the girl in hearing aids and glasses. One is offensive and one not so much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3698037740166386733.post-41163220932900085362017-08-31T10:38:33.555-07:002017-08-31T10:38:33.555-07:00Hello Christina, It is important to remember not e...Hello Christina, It is important to remember not every autistic or person with autism holds the save views that you do and it is not fair and unjust to take away their right to a cure. In regards to identity first language, calling me an autistic person is like calling a blind person the boy in glasses it is rude in my opinion and as someone who sees autism as a problem of some kind I don't like it and I can't cover for it.<br /><br />In regards to what does and doesn't need a cure, illnesses and afflictions and anything bad needs a cure. Diversity is like the cars we have, they are all different, however they all can run and when they can't, we fix them same with mental illness and people when we get sick we get a cure.<br /><br />Yes, I would prefer autism didn't exist that doesn't mean I would prefer you didn't exist because you are not autism because autism is a lack of mental health not a different brain and I would even go as far as to say it is a misleading label not based on science and is not reliable.<br /><br />Autism is not an identity, is my cowardly behavior my identity or my affliction same with autism.<br /><br />www.seeingclearlymedia.weebly.com --- my website) I write about autism frequently.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com